How to Develop Good Manners: 40+ Tips to Leave a Good Impression


In this day and age of coarse language and mannerisms, basic courtesy and manners seem to be on a long-term sabbatical.

Good manners have become so rare that whenever you see them being practiced by someone, it is a reason for shock and surprise.

Things as simple as holding a door open for someone, showing eloquence while speaking, putting your phone away at the dinner table, and being mindful of your language when in public are almost non-existent.

Ways to practice and develop good manners
Ways to practice good manners

What people often fail to notice is that good manners leave a good impression on others. While someone may forget why they think well of you, it may be your courtesy or good manners that might have made an impression on them.

Practicing good manners is being aware of and respecting the feelings of others. Here are few steps to develop good manners:

  1. Act toward others the way you wanted to be treated. Put yourself in other people’s shoes and imagine how they would want to be treated. Be friendly, helpful, respectful, and courteous to people around you. Just ask yourself if you were in their situation, how would you want to be treated?
  2. Learn to smile when you meet people. Acknowledge the presence of another person. Smile and greet people when you meet them.
    Smile and greet people when you meet them to develop good manners
    Smile and greet people when you meet them

    If it’s someone elder, an acquaintance, a business associate or your boss, go for a formal greeting by using their title like, “Hi, Mrs. Sheldon” or “Hi Mr. Frank.” Avoid using slang like “hey” or “hi.” Whereas if you are meeting a friend or a family member, you can hug them, offer a handshake, or a simple, “hey how you doing?” would do.

  3. Dress appropriately. Every place has a dress code. Dress accordingly. Look presentable. Take a shower, keep your hair, skin, nails, and clothing clean. Wear clean clothes. Your good manners may go unnoticed if you are not well-groomed.

    Dress appropriately and look presentable to develop good manners
    Dress appropriately and look presentable
  4. Introduce people the right way. The first step in making introductions is to know who should be introduced to whom. Introduce the higher ranking or older person first. If that doesn’t work, introduce the person you know better first. When in a business scenario or in a party, the client’s name should be taken first or the guest of honor should be introduced first. Other times, a man should be introduced to a woman. Phrases such as “I’d like to introduce you to” or “May I introduce you to,” should be used before taking the person’s name. Make eye contact with the person you are talking to.
  5. Greet people when you are introduced to them. When you are introduced to someone, look into the person’s eyes, remember his name, and offer a handshake and say, “It’s a pleasure meeting you.”
  6. Congratulate and praise others. Congratulate people for their accomplishments or if they did something praise worthy. People will always remember for acknowledging their efforts.
    Congratulate and praise others to develop good manners
    Congratulate and praise others for their efforts

    Be a good sport. If someone wins you over a competition, race or sport, show good sportsmanship and congratulate him for his efforts.

  7. Acknowledge people when they leave. When someone is leaving your home, it is a good etiquette to walk them out to their car. Say a short goodbye like, “Drive safely. Thank you for dropping by. It was a pleasure meeting you. Give my love to your family.” Wave as they drive away. Leave once they have safely pulled out of your driveway.
  8. Say please and thank you. Every time you ask someone for a favor, remind yourself to say please. It does not matter how small the favor is. And every time someone helps you, say thank you even if it is to a barista serving you a coffee. Always make sure to say “excuse me” if you need to leave your dinner table or a social setting temporarily.
  9. Write thank you letters regularly. When someone gives you a gift, does a favor, or does something nice to you, send them a thank-you letter within a few days. Tell how thankful you are to them or how delighted you are to receive their gift. Although emails are better for people who live far away, a handwritten note is always better than a text message or an email.
  10. Hold doors open for others. Hold doors open for someone who would be entering shortly after you, for women, for someone with a baby stroller, for people with their hands full, someone with two or more children with them, people who are weak, elderly, handicapped, etc.
    Hold doors open for others to develop good manners
    Hold doors open for someone entering shortly after you

    When in circumstances where you are unsure whether the person would appreciate your favor ask politely, “May I open the door for you?”

  11. Give up your seat on public transport. If you are on a crowded bus or train, stand up, and offer your seat for the elderly, pregnant women, people with a lot of parcels, or people who are struggling to stand up.

    give up your seat on public transport to develop good manners
    Offer your seat to someone who needs it more than you
  12. Speak politely. To develop good manners, practice talking in lower volume unless the other person asks you to speak up. It should be low yet louder enough to allow people to hear you. But avoid shouting at top of your lungs. Use your hands to emphasize your points. Use plain and simple language instead of fancy words that are difficult for others to understand. Try to speak in a single speed and tone.
  13. Don’t interrupt people when they talk. Don’t interrupt or cut people off when they are speaking. Don’t get caught up in what you want to say that you stop listening and start sharing your thoughts.
  14. Practice good listening. Paying attention to people when they are talking reflects good mannerisms. Listen carefully when people are talking. Give them respect. Don’t let your eyes wander all over the place when someone is speaking. Don’t think about what to say when it’s your turn. Don’t get distracted in the middle of the conversation.
  15. Avoid talking only about yourself. When you are in a conversation, avoid focusing on yourself. Be curious about the other person’s life. Ask questions. Try using “you” and “your” to keep the focus on the other person. Allow them to do the talking. When you talk about yourself, keep it brief.
  16. Avoid asking personal questions. Avoid asking personal questions related to their finances, relationships, salary, weight, etc. Let people inform you about their personal lives when and if they wish to.
  17. Never talk about money. Refrain from asking questions like,Wow, nice dress. How much does this cost you?” “How much does your house cost you?” “What is your commission?” “What is your salary?” “How much do you make from your business?”
  18. Use appropriate language. Be respectful of the gender, age, race, religion, political inclinations, and other factors to develop good manners. Avoid making inappropriate comments. Take a pause and think before opening your mouth.
  19. Avoid slang language, gossiping, sharing dirty jokes, or swearing in public. Be mindful of the elderly, children, and women when using cuss words in public. Avoid peppering your conversations with cheap witticisms or slang language that might offend people who are not interested in hearing such unrefined choice of words.
  20. Avoid staring at people. Although looking someone in the eye while talking is considered to be good manners, staring at someone is rude. Blink and look away if you catch yourself staring at a stranger or making someone uncomfortable by staring.
  21. Avoid pointing fingers at people. Pointing with the index finger at something or someone is considered offensive.
  22. Avoid any kind of sarcasm and insult. When you feel like passing a sarcastic comment, bite your tongue until the urge diminishes. If you can’t say something nice, either don’t say anything or it’s better to forget about the relationship altogether.
  23. Avoid doing unpleasant things in public. If you want to comb your hair, apply a lipstick, or tidy your dress; get up and use a restroom. Stop picking your nose, spitting, or scratch your private parts in public. That’s gross.
  24. Avoid invading personal space. No matter how close you are to someone, give them some personal space and privacy. Nobody would prefer having someone under their nose all the time.
  25. Don’t touch. Avoid touching people like patting them on their shoulder or touching their hair. Don’t do it unless they specifically invite you to. Also, avoid touching other people’s things or children unless asked to.
  26. Don’t chew with your mouth open. It’s bad manners, it’s disgusting, and rude to see the remnants of food being rolled around in someone else’s mouth. Chances are that half-eaten food might trickle out of your mouth if you are chewing and talking at the same time.
  27. Avoid making noise while you slurp, chew, and crunch or eat. Eating quitter and keeping your mouth closed are signs of good manners. Although you might be enjoying your food, smacking or crunching noises are cringe-making for others.
  28. Do not talk with your mouth full. Most people find it rude and irritating when someone talks with his mouth full of food. Talk only once you swallow. Don’t rush. If someone is waiting for you to answer while you are eating, indicate with a gesture that you will talk once you have swallowed.
  29. Avoid putting your elbows on the table while eating. Putting your elbows on the table during a meal is unacceptable. If the meal is yet to begin or over, it is okay to place your elbows on the table.
  30. Ask for someone to pass you a dish or anything on the table. Never reach across someone else’s plate to reach something. Instead, ask the persons sitting next to you to pass you the dish. Ask, “Can you pass me the pasta please?”
  31. Don’t take food off someone else’s plate. Never take food off someone else’s plate in public, unless it is offered to you.
  32. Use your napkins to wipe your mouth not your nose. Table napkins whether they are made of paper or cloth is for the lap. Napkins can be used to subtly wipe your mouth, but stay away from using it to wipe off your lipstick or blow your nose.
  33. Cover your coughs and sneezes. Although this is something very basic, yet few people cover their coughs and sneezes. Always cover your nose or mouth with a tissue or a handkerchief when you sneeze or cough. If you don’t have a tissue, cough or sneeze into your upper sleeve, not your hands.

    Cover your cough and sneezes to develop good manners
    Cover your mouth with a tissue when you cough or sneeze
  34. Avoid popping bubble gums in public. Blowing or popping a bubble gum in public is annoying for those around. Avoid blowing or better even chewing bubble gum in a meeting, in a church, at job interviews, in a class, when in a conversation with elders, clients, or customers. If you cannot chew gum without needing to open your mouth, avoid chewing a gum altogether in such situations.
  35. Do not drop trash on the ground. Dropping your garbage on the ground or in a public place is rude and shows that you lack civic sense. Once you finish eating or drinking, throw the plastic cans, dishes, or containers in a garbage can. Do not leave it around and create a mess.
  36. Avoid drinking too much. When in social situations, avoid drinking too much. Most of the times, in an inebriated condition, you end up saying or doing things that you regret later. Hence, stop drinking before you start losing your control.
  37. Avoid cutting in line. Not waiting at the end of a queue for your turn and cutting in line is extremely rude. The next time you have this urge to cut in line, remember there are people in the queue who have been waiting longer than you. So, be respectful of others and wait for your turn.
  38. Only use your phone in appropriate settings. Avoid using your cell phone in the bathroom, in a meeting, on a dinner date, when with others in a social setting, and even on public transport. While talking on a phone in a public space, avoid being too loud or talking about personal issues in public. Avoid calling people after 9:00 pm unless it’s an emergency or it is arranged.
  39. Stay away from loud conversations over phone in public. It is irritating to have to listen to someone discussing their best friend’s husband cheating on his wife or hearing about their ordeal with their mother-in-law, when you were planning to catch up on your book while in the waiting room at the dentist’s office. When you are in public, try to keep your phone conversations polite. If need be, cup your hand over your mouth while talking to avoid distracting others. Avoid profanity, complaints, or anything that is embarrassing for others. Save your intense conversations to a more private place.
  40. Practice basic courtesy. When someone answers your call, introduce yourself first and state what you want. Avoid being harsh. For instance: Say, “Hello, this is Sam here. I would like to speak to Sally. Is she available?” If the person is unavailable, tell the person who answered whether you would call them back or request they call you back. When finished say thank you and goodbye. Wait for their goodbye too.
  41. Give people enough time to answer calls. Avoid hanging up after ringing just two or three times. At least give people time to hear the ring and answer them. Similarly, avoid letting the phone ring for too long. You might be interrupting as the person you are calling might be busy, sleeping, in a movie, etc.
  42. Prefer phone calls instead of texts. Texts are ideal for conveying short, instant messages, but remember that they are not always appropriate for important or sensitive information. Likewise, don’t let the convenience of texting become an excuse for never arriving on time.
  43. Don’t waste people’s time by chatting for long. Avoid chatting for long hours to someone. Learn to respect others’ time.
  44. Answer the phone politely. Be pleasant and polite while answering the phone. If the phone call is for someone else, say, “Can you please be on the line, I will go and call him for you?” or if that person is unavailable, say, “I am sorry, he is not available right now. Can I take the message for him and ask him to call you back?” Before putting someone on hold excuse yourself and say, “I am sorry can you hold on a minute?” or “Can I call you back?” and wait for the person’s answer.
  45. Be polite online. Your online activity is a reflection of your offline personality. So, be respectful even in the virtual world. Stop posting nasty comments or disparaging comments on walls and status updates or avoid uploading unflattering pictures of your friends or tagging them in a group picture just because you happen to look good in it. Be mindful of bombarding people with minute-by-minute updates. Think about others when using social media.
  46. Drive courteously. Last but not the least, to develop good manners be a polite and respectful driver. Acknowledge drivers who let you out at a junction, let others in on a slow-moving traffic, give cyclists plenty of space, yield to pedestrians, use your turn signals even if there is no one around, and do not tailgate people.

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